Whenever you feel you are in a painful emotion, take the following steps to break the pattern, which is limiting your progress or success.
It is like cultivating your own garden in a way. What you plant will grow and thrive in whatever conditions. Similarly we need to develop habits or regular pattern of planting good emotions to feel positive and powerful to handle things around us.
1. Recognize your feelings – are they negative , do you feel overwhelmed or attacked or overloaded — just ask yourself – ‘What am I feeling right now?’ Am I angry or frustrated? Then take a moment to question your emotions. Start to reason and begin to reduce the intensity of your negative emotions to deal with the situation more quickly and easily. Keep in mind the 10 positive powerful emotions listed to help get to the right frame of thinking.
2. Accept and Appreciate your emotions – Don’t destroy your feelings by wrongful communications with yourself. Begin to accept that you have right to feel the way you feel at times because of circumstances. However appreciate that now you are totally aware and can control your emotions – you can change your thinking patterns and the way you approach the situations. As every child needs attention, you will find this steps helps to calm you down eventually to look at the positive angle.
3. Understand and Analyze the message – you are getting or thinking through. This is to help you break the habit of negative emotional states you get into immediately under certain conditions. Check out your feelings and challenge them if valid for those situations. This is to prevent the same happening again and again form occurring in future. It is literally conditioning you to think better than just misinterpreting things.
Four great questions to ask:
a) What must I really feel to handle it better?
b) What belief do I need to develop to feel that way?
c) Am I willing to create the right solution and handle it properly to get results?
d) What will I gain from this? Or how will it benefit me?
4. Stay Confident – this step is important as it need to be carried throughout. Things do wrong at times but it is crucial not to lose hope and faith in yourself. Develop confidence and keep it till you achieve the desired results.
5. Give Assurance to yourself – that you have ability to solve things and develop positive powerful emotions to get expected outcomes. Furthermore, keep assuring that you cannot only do it this time but also every time such condition prevails. Repeating yourself will to develop assurance and overcome negativity.
6. Become Passionate to take action – don’t be a coward – just go for it. Excitement is important to move you forward – so get passionate about winning people, situations or even circumstances that challenge you. Passion is the leverage that gets you in the driving seat to steer you to your goals of happiness.